Monday, March 21, 2022

Why do your employees stay?

 from Harvard Business Review

If you’re serious about retaining the people on your team (as you should be), consider conducting “stay” interviews. These are discussions where you ask loyal employees key questions to understand how engaged they are. The information you gather can help you tackle common retention issues. Here are four questions to try:

  • What’s your frame of mind today? No matter what the response is — positive or negative — don’t negate their experience or move too quickly to solving a problem. Just listen, thank them for being honest, and ask for more information before moving toward a solution.
  • Who do you feel connected to at work? Based on their response, explore what you can do to help them deepen those connections. Perhaps people from different departments can work on a company-wide event, a cross-division initiative, or take part in virtual discussion groups.
  • What do you want to learn that will excite you and help you grow? This question signals that you care about their development and want to help them achieve their aspirations.
  • What barriers can I remove for you to help you do your job better? Then brainstorm with your colleague how you can be most helpful. Ensuring people can do their jobs well is just as important as praise and rewards.

Thursday, March 17, 2022

Build a Habit of Self-Reflection

 from Harvard Business Review

Build a Habit of Self-Reflection
Reflection — looking back on your day (without bias or regret) to contemplate your behavior and its consequences — helps develop your emotional intelligence. If you want to build a regular habit of reflecting, keep a journal. Whenever you are surprised or frustrated, pause and note the feeling. Then, as soon as you are able — perhaps for fifteen minutes at the end of each workday — jot down what happened. Try to identify the “why” behind the emotion. What about the event triggered these feelings in you? Did things not go your way? Did you make a mistake? Next, set an hour aside each week to review your notes. Block out the time on your calendar and take an honest and rigorous look at where you’ve been mentally and emotionally. Finally, don’t just re-read your journal entry; add to it. In retrospect, are there things about the situation that you’re able to see differently? Press yourself. What went wrong? Were your initial observations correct or do they reveal something else that may have been going on, something you couldn’t see in the heat of the moment? Try to think of yourself as a neutral observer. And go easy on yourself. Reflection can be ego-bruising. Always remember that excellence is achieved by stumbling, standing up, dusting yourself off, then stumbling again. If you study those stumbles, you’re much less likely to stumble the same way again.
This tip is adapted from Don’t Underestimate the Power of Self-Reflection,” by James R. Bailey and Scheherazade Rehman

Wednesday, March 16, 2022

Great Presenters Establish Trust with Their Audience

 from Harvard Business Review

Great Presenters Establish Trust with Their Audience
When giving a presentation, your most important responsibility is to establish trust with your audience. How can you do this? Focus on four key areas.
  • Competency. Demonstrate expert knowledge of your topic by sharing current trends in your industry and by using specific anecdotes.
  • Clarity. Clear communication lets expertise shine through. Identify the goal of your presentation in advance and use a clear structure with logical transitions to achieve that goal. Then, read your presentation out loud and refine as needed.
  • Compassion. Speak directly to your audience’s needs, highlight what’s relevant to them, and make them feel heard and understood.
  • Connection. Weave personal examples into your presentation — particularly examples that demonstrate vulnerability and transparency — to connect emotionally with your audience.

Tuesday, March 15, 2022

Catlin Tucker - Why am I grading this?

 https://catlintucker.com/2019/02/ask-yourself-why-am-i-grading-this/


When the News Is Distressing, It’s Important to Support Your Team

from Harvard Business Review

When the News Is Distressing, It’s Important to Support Your Team
When you’re in a position of authority, your words have special weight. But when the news is distressing, and your team is worried, it’s not always clear what to do or say. If you’re finding yourself at a loss, start with these three simple steps.
  • Check in with your employees individually. Talk to each person on your team to get a sense of who is affected — and how. Ask if there’s anything they need or any way you can support them. A simple question at the beginning of a one-on-one meeting such as, “Have you been following the news? Do you know anyone impacted?” can reveal an unexpected connection that someone might not have thought they could share.
  • Make space to address the news during a meeting. You might start your weekly huddle by saying, “I’d like to take a quick minute to acknowledge what’s happening. I’ve certainly been distracted and concerned by it. Who else feels the same way?” Your goal is to be compassionate and understanding, not to wade into politics, put people on the spot, or force anyone to speak.
  • Give people the opportunity to take action. Research ways to help that are in line with your organization’s values and provide credible sources for employees to get involved. If possible, let them use a portion of their working hours for volunteer activities.

Thursday, March 10, 2022

How to Respond When Your Team Is Frustrated

 from Harvard Business Review

How to Respond When Your Team Is Frustrated
Sometimes, when you’re a manager, your team gets upset with you. They may be unhappy with a decision you’ve made or a new policy or an increase in workload. Of course, you aren’t in charge of keeping everyone happy all of the time, but you do want to respond to negative emotions so they don’t erode trust or hold your team back. Here are some strategies for managing anger and resentment when they creep up.
  • Balance your emotions before reacting to your team’s. Don’t take the anger or resentment personally. See these expressions as data, not a threat, and resist the urge to get defensive or to dismiss your team’s feedback.
  • Be curious. Ask for more information. Offer your team members a safe space to vent to you without shame or worry of retribution, and focus on what you can learn from their feedback.
  • Enlist their help. Invite them to partner with you to explore solutions that address their concerns and benefit everyone. That way you can channel their frustration into a positive and productive outcome.
  • Build deeper trust by owning your part. Even if you weren’t the direct cause of your team’s frustration, own up to any blind spots you may have and commit to continuing to learn and grow.

Tuesday, February 22, 2022

The Best Job Candidates Are the Best Storytellers

 The Best Job Candidates Are the Best Storytellers

by Kelsey Schurer

Harvard Business Review

Before the pandemic, and I do mean way before, I bought a beautiful suit — deep charcoal gray with a soft silk lining. It was my interview suit.

I’d just graduated from my Master of Fine Arts program and believed that first impressions were all about how we presented ourselves. This, to a degree, is true. But in the interview room, that presentation tends to stay on the surface. Of course, you need to speak intelligently and concisely, and you need the skills and experience to qualify for the roles you’re applying for. Still, as I stared at myself in my nice suit in the mirror, I naively forgot that first impressions extend far deeper.

First impressions are meant to impress. The word “impress” has more than one meaning; the most common is to gain admiration or interest. But to impress also means to imprint, or to apply so much pressure or intent upon something that you leave a permanent mark behind.

If you think about it, the pandemic applied that pressure, imprinting us with the desire to reexamine what’s important in our lives — especially our work lives. Some of us were left with more than just a need to switch jobs, but also a radical wish for more flexibility, money, and happiness in our careers.

If you’re one of the people seeking a new work opportunity, then you’re probably prepping for a job interview (or a few).

Here’s what not to do:

  • Spend all your time memorizing facts about the company and role: Learning as much as you can about the company you’re interviewing with is smart, but everyone does this. The interviewer knows what their company already has, and they’re looking for what you can add.
  • Stay up late considering how you might respond to expected questions: Are you Googling “tips for a successful job interview” and reading the top articles? Rehearsing “your greatest strengths and weaknesses?” Yawn. Instantaneous boredom.
  • Only share the facts of your résumé: Without the context of how you show up when it counts, you won’t impress the interviewer. Your impression will stay at the surface level, leaving the interviewer with no emotional reaction to compel them to take a deeper look at you.

A successful interview hinges on a great story.

We’re all familiar with the most popular interview questions:

  • “Can you tell me about yourself?”
  • “What are your greatest strengths and weaknesses?”
  • “Can you explain a challenge you overcame?”

Every situational question your interviewer asks you can benefit from a great story. And understanding how to tell an authentic story about yourself in a way that leaves a permanent mark — in a way that allows your prospective employer to really see you — is the key to standing out. We all have a story to tell. Whether we’ve overcome an obstacle or learned through a mistake, our work forces us to reach within and surface our inner heroes.

But how do you paint that picture for your interviewers? As a book-writing coach who specializes in the business storytelling realm, my job is to help other people share their authentic stories (and I’ve gone through a fair number of job interviews myself).

What have I learned? A great story takes the audience on a journey. It has a clear beginning, middle, and end. The “before” version of you was met with a challenge that forced you to learn, grow, and ultimately do something differently (the beginning). You made a decision you never would have made before (the middle). Sometimes you succeeded. Other times you failed. Either way, you walked away with a lesson. You survived a challenge and emerged as a more powerful version of yourself (the end).

The Beginning: Choose a story that left a lasting imprint on you.

Every one of us has faced challenges at work. Your task is to unpack some of those moments — something few of us have taken the time to do — and practice relaying them in a compelling and authentic way.

Maybe you saved the day by speaking up when you saw something unjust. Maybe you salvaged a client account with a fantastic idea. Maybe you supported your coworker through a difficult day. Or maybe from time to time you’ve failed, walked away recognizing your mistakes, and are a stronger and more strategic performer as a result.

Remember that we’re all human, and sometimes we don’t always slay the monster — that doesn’t mean we aren’t heroes. Telling our interviewers stories of both successes and failures helps us stand out as emotionally intelligent and self-aware candidates. We each have ways, big and small, in which we’ve grown through difficult times.

To begin telling your story, start by outlining one of these instances, and do your best to choose a moment that connects to the question at hand.

For example, put yourself in the interviewer’s shoes. Pretend you have just asked me the question: Can you talk about a time when you had to overcome a challenge? Let’s say I’ve done my research and I know that “resilience” and “emotional intelligence” are qualities that your company values. To answer your question in a compelling way, I would choose a story that displays those skills and begin by explaining the obstacle I had to overcome:

During my first summer as a journalist at a local newspaper, I was assigned to photograph a festival. You should probably know now that I’m not a very good photographer, nor have I taken many photographs in my career. But I was a good field journalist, and I had proven to my editor that I could get a story from a crowded event.

The festival was guaranteed to be front-page news for the paper — which meant we needed high-quality photos and coverage. That was my job.

Talking to strangers about all the fun they were having? Piece of cake. Handling a professional-grade camera with a long, heavy lens that was such a big deal it had its own dust cloth and carrying case? That was my worst nightmare.

The Middle: Bring the interviewer into the memory with details.

As the saying goes, “God is in the details.” When you share your story during an interview, you’re trusting your interviewer with a handful of unique details about your life and identity. That extension of trust is far more likely to be met with trust in return than a series of rehearsed responses.

For instance, don’t just state that you won an award or accomplished a difficult task. Share those achievements through the context of a story, engaging the interviewer with rich details. Aim to ask and answer for yourself: “What did you sacrifice to achieve that award? How did you feel when faced with those challenges? Who stood right by you and supported you? Or did you have to go at it alone?”

It’s not a line on a résumé, but an entire memory. Interviewers can then see you as a full person, analyze how you problem-solve, and witness your determination, risk-taking, or ability to self-reflect.

Sticking with our initial example, I would focus on pulling the interviewer deeper into my story by explaining the disappointment I felt when my worst nightmare came true:

I’d like to say my photography experience was a triumph, that I was so proud of myself for overcoming the challenge. But when I got back home and plugged the camera into my computer, all the photos were missing. My heart dropped. I hadn’t captured a single one.

After driving around the city for hours, going from fancy camera shops to techy holes-in-the-wall, I wasn’t able to fix the memory card. I realized that I would have to go back to my boss and admit that I had let her down. I was deeply ashamed, but I also knew it was my responsibility to face my fear and own my mistake — no matter the outcome.

The end: Don’t just be a hero — be vulnerable.

Your goal in sharing your story during an interview is not to portray yourself as amazing all the time. The last thing you want to do is come off as a one-dimensional, cartoon hero. (That’s likely what every other job candidate is doing.)

If you want to distinguish yourself and make a real impression, you need to display the fullness of your character. As in our original example, you can do this by choosing to balance your stories of success with a story or two of failure. Share an experience where your best intentions still resulted in an undesirable outcome. When you own up to your mistakes, when you admit you did something unlike yourself, and when you allow your weaknesses to show, you stand out to your interviewer in a surprising way.

To wrap up my story, I would ask, “What did I learn about myself that I did not know before and how can I connect it back to what the hiring manager is looking for?” I would end by sharing a vulnerable moment, how I overcame it, and the lessons I took with me, highlighting the skills I know they want to see: “resilience” and “emotional intelligence.”

When I approached my editor and explained what had happened, I was terrified, but surprisingly, she wasn’t mad. She told me it was alright, that it is human to err, and that if she wanted everything perfect she would have hired a robot.

I realize this isn’t the traditional narrative you might expect about overcoming a challenge, but it took a lot for me to speak up that day, and I learned more from that experience than I have from some of my biggest accomplishments.

The grace my editor extended to me showed me that kindness triumphs over consequences, and that heroes aren’t always heroic — as humans, we will always make mistakes. I learned that when faced with a challenge, the true sword of triumph is vulnerability. We can make mistakes, but we can rectify those mistakes when we show up to the situation with our masks removed. When we humble ourselves enough to take out our insecurities or our weaknesses and share them with others, we can actually learn something new.

This experience still impacts how I work today. I bring honesty and bravery to every ordeal I face, and I extend that grace to my colleagues and team members. I find that this makes everyone more resilient, more open, and more adaptable to challenges in the future.

Vulnerable authenticity tells your interviewer that you won’t show up to work every day pretending everything is always awesome (a false reality and untruthful in the long run). And that means that anybody who works with you won’t have to show up as one-dimensional, either. Suddenly, your interviewer can relax because they are talking to a human being and not the caricature of one. A successful interview is a memorable one. Vulnerability is memorable.

Now, let me be vulnerable again.

That interviewing suit I mentioned before? It never got me a job. I showed up to interviews in it, but I didn’t truly show up. I was too afraid to reveal my authentic self to the stranger on the other side.

With practice, however, I grew more comfortable. I learned that it’s just as important to reveal who you are as it is to see how the interviewer reacts to your vulnerability. If you both walk away liking yourselves more after the interaction, you’ve got a decent chance of receiving a job offer you’d be overjoyed to accept.

If a hiring manager doesn’t respond in kind — if they remain on the surface and refuse to take a deeper look — you can leave that opportunity knowing that their workplace was simply not a sandbox you were meant to play in. Instead of getting the job and spending months or years trying to turn a bad fit into a good one, you can redirect your energy toward a more ideal fit.